Author(s): Emily Witt
Emily Witt is single and in her thirties. She has slept with most of her male friends. Most of her male friends have slept with most of her female friends. Sexual promiscuity is the norm. But up until a few years ago, she still envisioned her sexual experience achieving a sense of finality, 'like a monorail gliding to a stop at Epcot Center'. Like many people, she imagined herself disembarking, finding herself face-to-face with another human being, 'and there we would remain in our permanent station in life: the future'. But, as we all know, things are more complicated than that. Love is rare and frequently unreciprocated. Sexual acquisitiveness is risky and can be hurtful. And generalizing about what women want or don't want or should want or should do seems to lead nowhere. Don't our temperaments, our hang-ups, and our histories define our lives as much as our gender? In Future Sex, Witt captures the experiences of going to bars alone, online dating, and hooking up with strangers. After moving to San Francisco, she decides to say yes to everything and to find her own path. From public health clinics to cafe conversations about 'coregasms', she observes the subcultures she encounters with awry sense of humour, capturing them in all their strangeness, ridiculousness, and beauty. The result is an open-minded, honest account of the contemporary pursuit of connection and pleasure, and an inspiring new model of female sexuality - open, forgiving, and unafraid.
'What is the story we're telling ourselves?' A funny, fresh, and moving antidote to conventional attitudes about sex and the single woman.
Emily Witt is a journalist, an essayist, and a critic. Her work has been published in n+1, GQ, New York magazine, The New York Observer, and the London Review of Books and anthologized in Best American Travel Writing. She has degrees from Brown University, the Columbia University Graduate School of Journalism, and Cambridge, and she was a Fulbright scholar in Mozambique. She grew up in Minneapolis and now lives in Brooklyn, New York.